By Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott
“Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” – Les Parrott
Showing gratitude to your spouse is an important daily practice; it’s essential to nurturing a healthy marriage. There are many ways to express your thanks to your husband or wife, so today, we’re sharing 10 ideas for showing him or her your appreciation.
1. SAY IT OUT LOUD…AND MORE OFTEN!
Intentionally saying thank you to your spouse more often is the simplest, most obvious way to show him or her your gratitude. It can be easy to neglect to thank your spouse for everyday tasks that may seem mundane. But you’ll find that your gratitude can transform your spouse’s view of these tasks, especially if he or she has been feeling bogged down. It doesn’t take much effort, but those two simple words go a long way.
2. WRITE A THOUGHTFUL CARD, NOTE, OR LETTER.
Write a sweet note of thanks to your spouse and hide it where they can easily find it: in their lunchbox, on the dashboard of their car, on the bathroom mirror, or someplace similar. It’s amazing how a little note like that can brighten someone’s day. Even scribbling a message onto a sticky note can make all their daily efforts feel more worthwhile.
3. GIVE YOUR SPOUSE A BREAK.
A few hours of quiet time might very well be #1 on your spouse’s wish list, especially if he or she is overworked or caring for young children. Or they might just want a break from their regular tasks. Whatever the case, give him or her the opportunity to get that needed time, whether it means several hours to curl up with a book, or you taking over their chores for the day. (If you have children, take care of finding child care or keep the kids yourself.)
4. COOK A SPECIAL DINNER.
Does your spouse have a favorite meal they love or a recipe they’ve been dying to try? You do whip up a dish every once in a while that brings back happy memories for you both? Set aside a little time to prepare a home-cooked meal just for him or her. Light some candles, play some music, and dine-in together at home.
5. PRAISE HIM OR HER TO YOUR KIDS, THEN GET THEM IN ON THE ACT.
Being outspoken to (and in front of) your children regarding your gratitude toward your spouse will rub off on them! Take the time to deliberately tell your kids about all the great things your husband or wife does for the family, and encourage them to say thank you to their other parent as well. You can even go a step further and suggest that the kids create hand-made artwork to thank their mom or dad, or that they even help out with the chores to take the load off your spouse. Cultivating this gratitude in your children will resonate throughout your entire immediate family.
6. TELL THE WORLD WHAT YOUR SPOUSE DOES FOR YOU.
Go a little further than the four walls of your house and let others know, as often as possible, how grateful you are for your husband or wife. Verbalize it among extended family, friends, or church. Put your social media account to good use and let it be known that you are thankful for everything your spouse does for you and your family.
7. BEHAVE IN A GRATEFUL WAY.
Saying “thank you,” giving gifts, and telling others aren’t quite enough; you have to behave in a grateful way toward your spouse. Make an effort to notice what they do and to respect the work they’re putting in for you, on whatever front–whether they’re running a business, running the household, or a combination of both. Don’t take him or her for granted. Be conscientious and thoughtful, and take care to make sure that you’re not undermining or undoing their efforts in any way.
8. TAKE YOUR SPOUSE ON A ROMANTIC DATE.
A nice date is a great way to say thank you to your husband or wife for everything they do for you. Choose their favorite restaurant, a movie they’ve been dying to see, grab a coffee, take a nature hike, or stop by their favorite bookstore or library. Make that time all about your spouse.
9. GIVE A “JUST BECAUSE” GIFT.
Sometimes, a gratitude gift is in order. Purchase something your spouse would like to have but might not be willing to buy for themselves, then attach a little note of thanks before you gift it. Maybe your husband has been admiring a watch or set of Damiani cufflinks, for example, or maybe your wife has had her eye on a novel or a movie she hasn’t bought for herself. This could be the perfect opportunity to splurge for him or her. Furthermore, jewellery is a fantastic gift idea for both men and women and can be treasured for all time as a memento of your partnership. You can find a wide selection of luxury designer watches online by browsing websites like Jacobs The Jeweller. Need some more gifting inspiration? Check out these thank you gift baskets.
10. STRIVE TO OFFER MORE THAN YOU TAKE.
Successful marriages are all about servanthood. Another way to show your gratitude is to avoid existing only as a “taker.” Give, give, give–your spouse is giving to you, so make sure you not only reciprocate but go above and beyond to give back. And when you give, take care to do it selflessly, without expecting anything in return.
If you would like help with your relationship, please contact CornerStone Family Services at 614-459-3003 to talk with a counselor or coach.