Sexual abuse, domestic violence, and human trafficking are plagues in the United States and throughout the world. Unfortunately, popular media – in books, blogs, and movies – have been saturating our society that these are not forms of deviant behavior but glamorize ways of expressing and empowering oneself. The mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual damage done to those who survive these abuses is far from glamorous.
If you or someone you know is feeling trapped in this kind of abuse or has escaped sexual abuse, please encourage them to seek out help in healing from the violence inflicted upon them. One resource is CornerStone Family Services (614-459-3003) and the agencies listed on its “Support” page.
The following are excerpts from “Truth about ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’: Movie Glamorizes Sexual Violence, Domestic Abuse” by Dawn Hawins of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation regarding the latest attempt to normalize sexual abuse and domestic violence through the book and film 50 Shades of Grey:
The mass media and throngs of women are swooning over the twisted “love story” “Fifty Shades of Grey,” but this cultural phenomenon’s impact on society will serve only to glamorize sexual violence and romanticize domestic abuse.
While millions of women are fantasizing about the controlling and abusive Christian Grey of fiction, there are many other women dealing with the horrors of actually living with men like him.
In the book, and now the soon-to-be released film, Christian uses manipulation, jealousy, intimidation and violence to control the naive Ana. Most fans overlook and romanticize this because of his powerful position, handsome looks and nice suits. But women like Ana in real life will tell you that a seemingly perfect exterior does not necessarily mirror one’s psychological health or mean that he possesses a moral compass…
The reality is that if you take away the glamour, “Fifty Shades” is just a sensationalized lie, telling women that they can, and should, fix violent and controlling men by being obedient and devoted, and that, somehow, this is romantic…The popularity of “Fifty Shades of Grey” among women also sends a message to men that unrestrained domination is what women want…
Porn will show you that women enjoy torture and violence, and now “Fifty Shades” is tacking on an unrealistic fairy-tale ending, convincing droves of women that this type of relationship is normal, and that they should just give in.
This is not entertainment or a fairy tale, as Hollywood is claiming. This is glamorization of violence and abuse. Society pays a price when we teach men to be turned on by women in pain…
Glamorizing sexual abuse is not an appropriate topic for entertainment. Remove the glamour and facade of the Christian-Ana relationship and ask yourself if this is the twisted lie you want to tell yourself, your daughter and your friends.